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Mind Full? Or Mindful?

In this life, you’ve been programmed to believe that once you’ve reached your goal weight, once you’ve bought your dream house and car, found the perfect wife or husband and landed the most perfect position in your workplace… Then you’re happy. 

So you work hard towards that. You spend countless hours in the gym, doing all sorts of workouts for months. You sacrifice a lot of your social life and personal desires to save every penny you can. You’re constantly in bed, swiping right on Tinder, trying to find the perfect guy/girl who has a straight to the point bio and a picture of them with a dog (it’s Tinder law; you get extra points if you have a picture with a cute animal). You do all of these things, in hopes that one day you’re going to get to the place where you can breathe the sigh of relief and say “I’m finally happy.”

Robin Williams had everything. Chester Bennington had everything. If they had all these things, why aren’t they with us today?

In this life, you’ve been programmed to believe that material treasures equal happiness. 

As soon as you’re old enough, you start to work hard towards these things. Your mind is then consistently filled to the brim with anxiety wondering if things are going to go right and wondering what your next move is. You’re constantly working, to eventually reach that day when you can finally breathe the sigh of relief and say “I’m finally happy.”

But what you’re forgetting is that while you were so busy working towards these things… You forgot to show gratitude for the little things.

You forgot the happiness you feel when you hear your mother’s voice after so long. The happiness you feel when the sun kisses gently on your skin. The happiness you feel when you see your best friend smile. The happiness you feel when you eat your favorite meal. (This is where the practice of mindfulness into play.)

All these things hold the key to true happiness.

The present. The one moment where we can express pure gratuity. 

We forget the present when we’re tirelessly working hard towards these goals. Now, I’m not saying that you should just stop… No! Keep going! You’re doing well!

But once in a while, stop. Stop and appreciate the little things around you. 

Slow down. Take your time. Breathe. Set your goals down for a second and appreciate what’s around you. Clear your mind and be mindful. That’s the secret to happiness.

CALL TO ACTION

What did you think of this post? Do you have anything to add? Feel free to do so in the comments; I appreciate your input so much. 

5 thoughts on “Mind Full? Or Mindful?

  1. I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with mindfulness:
    On the good side, like you write, stopping in the present and being grateful and happy with the little things (that are actually kind of huge, which you realize when you loose them) – I practise that quite often or nurture it through e.g. going for a slow walk in the sunset or mild rain.
    However, mindfulness apps with bells and breathing exercises totally stress me. Have no idea why, but my heart rate goes up and breathing becomes hard.
    I’m currently in recovery after the latest huge mental break down, which essentially was caused by overworking to reach those goals to reach happiness (or perceived acceptance from others, because no way I could be good enough if I didn’t constantly improve)…having an – at that time – undiscovered autism diagnosis didn’t make things better, quite the contrary.
    I have come to believe that happiness cannot be forced or achieved.
    Happiness finds YOU. It’s up to you to acknowledge it’s presence and say hi.
    The more you do so, the more Happiness will stop by.
    May sound a bit out there, idk, but to me happiness is a friend: if you ignore it it will turn away, if you embrace it it will start hanging out with you.
    ❤️❤️❤️
    Love the fact that you brought this up in a post. The message is so important.

  2. I have worked very hard to be mindful during the past five years or so. When I read your blog post, I had just finished a phone call from my mum. She had been out Christmas shopping and just wanted to speak to me about nothing in particular. We laughed, we discussed our upcoming family party, and we both felt very happy afterwards. I really do enjoy the simpler pleasures in life these days, and it feels wonderful.

  3. I tried to “practice” mindfulness for so long and just got more and more frustrated. THEN I got a puppy and he’s made me so mindful. I sit with him, play with him, walk him, just watch him. All of which involves just him and nothing else and it’s definitely very calming on my mind!

  4. I think mindfulness is different for everyone – we all find different experiences meaningful or calming. Some people might get a lot out of socializing and being around loved ones – that’s where they find their gratitude and happiness. Others, like me, find it in discovery – in reading a new book and taking on a new perspective, in marveling about the amazing things our brains and bodies can do, in the first sip of coffee in the morning….

    There is immense relief in letting go of the myth of the “rat race” to happiness. Just be in the moment. It may not be a perfect or happy moment, but it’s the one we’ve got and we’ll never get it back again.

    1. You’re so right. Thank you for your input, especially when you said that mindfulness is different for everyone. I didn’t see it from that perspective until now… Thank you! ❤️

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