Happy New Year! We’re on the 8th day of the year and I hope the year is going well for everyone. If you’re like the average human being, you would’ve listed out a few goals or resolutions that you would like to achieve this year. For some it may be becoming more active, focusing more on your career, or even just learning a new language. Whatever it may be, I’m glad you decided to aim to achieve some thing this year. I’m proud of you!
It’s extremely common for most to lose motivation in the second month of the new year, however (*raises hand because I can relate and I have no shame in admitting so*). But, after a lot of thought, trial and error and self-reflection, I realized that I’ve been going about the entire thing incorrectly for majority of my life. I’m writing this post to pass on my lessons to you, to see you succeed in your goals for this year. So let’s go!
- Remembering your ‘why’: In the grand scheme of goal planning, this little nugget of advice here is KEY. Think of one major resolution you planned to accomplish for the new year. Did it? Good. While thinking of that goal, you must have had an image in your head of you achieving that 2019 resolution. That, my friend, is your ‘why’. During the time of working toward that goal, however, the image can become distorted for various reasons (that I’ll mention below) and the motivation that we started with at the beginning of the year dwindles. My advice? Visualize that image. Hang it up in your room. Set it as your screen wallpaper. Set an alarm at 8am and 9pm to remind you of your ‘why’ every day. Whatever works best for you.
- Have patience with the process: Nothing worth having, comes easily. And that’s a hard fact. You have the image(s) of you accomplishing your goal(s) in mind; you’re off to a great start. But it doesn’t stop there. That’s the easy part. You’re going to have to work now. I can speak from experience that having the image in my mind tricks me into thinking I achieved said goal already (the brain is a mean old thing sometimes) and I just forget about everything and fall back into old habits. And truth be told, the process can get boring sometimes. You are going to lose motivation at times. The next point should help with that.
- Incorporate healthy reward system: Working on a goal shouldn’t always be hard; it should be rewarding! For every milestone you reach, treat yourself to something you that makes you happy. According to psychology, this practice wires your brain to form a habit where you will eventually involuntarily reward yourself whenever you accomplish something. Make sure it’s something healthy and wholesome like taking yourself out for dinner, or having a spa day or going shopping. It’ll definitely make the process of getting to your goal more enjoyable.
- Set up an accountability system: Man is not an island. In this life, you’re going to need people to help you along the way. Gather up a group of your closest friends and form a buddy/accountability system where you all share your resolutions for the new year and vow (promise isn’t strong enough of a word for this kinda thing) to keep each other accountable for every goal. However, it is important to note, that the people in this accountability system NEED to be serious. There is no space for any half-assery in this new year; make sure your friends are serious about their goals and that they are welcome to any sort of critical criticism. How you invite in your circle determines who you are.
It’s always easy to lose motivation when we’re working on achieving goals. However, with determination and a few small steps, it’s something that can easily be regained. I wish everyone success in their New Year’s Resolutions this year and I wish prosperity and wellness in every aspect of your lives!
This is a collaboration piece with the lovely CherishingFlo!